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Getting over appointment anxiety

August 20, 2013


Sometimes I worry my treatment isn't really working. I want to understand more about how my MS is progressing and what my treatment options are. But whenever I try to talk to my neurologist about it I chicken out. How do I talk to him about this?

Scared to Talk to the Doctor

Nurse Susan replies:

This happens to a lot of people when they speak to their physician. No matter how much people may like and respect their doctors, they get kind of nervous when they're in the same room because the situation feels intimidating.

One thing you may want to consider is bringing some backup. Take some time before your appointment to make a list of what you want to talk about with your doctor. Then bring a friend or loved one with you to your appointment and give them the list.

This way you're less likely to forget what you want to talk about in the moment, and your friend or loved one is there for moral support and to act as a spokesperson to help prompt the conversation. Plus it's great to have a second person there to listen and/or take notes.

Another option that can work for some is to hand your list over to your doctor. Some doctors like this because they can review all your questions and maybe take care of several questions with one answer.

The important thing to remember is that if something is important to you, it's OK to talk about it. Sharing with your doctor gives him or her important information about you that can impact your treatment. If you've taken time to organize your thoughts, they'll probably appreciate that effort.

— Nurse Susan, MS One to One® Nurse

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